The Camera Is Rolling

A daily list can prepare you for the Day of Judgment — the yearly one and the ultimate one

One of the main reasons that marital counseling is effective is because
it shames people into behaving normally. Not that the therapist humiliates the
client. Rather the client humiliates him- or herself by revealing how he or she behaves at home.

No one likes to admit that she shrieks says insulting remarks slams
doors makes ugly threats or otherwise behaves “not nicely.” We don’t want to
expose actions that are blatantly selfish or outright cruel. Our partner’s
reflection of our behavior now shared with a normal-looking outsider — the
therapist — can make us feel ridiculous. The marital counselor is an outside
witness a reality check for the client.

“Gosh this doesn’t sound good does it?” one wonders as she hears the
description of things said and done that no one could be proud of. Even when
one tries to explain oneself the truth slaps her in the face: There is no excuse or justification for
behaving that way. Explanations for crass behavior sound ludicrous to one’s own ears.