You always thought you’d marry your best friend, but you’re still waiting for that “click.” How to survive — and thrive — in a marriage that feels like a mismatch.
“Finding a spouse who doubles as a best friend is a wonderful goal but it’s not the basic definition of ‘marriage’ or ‘soulmate’ ” says Rabbi Moshe Hauer a well-known speaker and rav of Congregation Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion in Baltimore. “If a couple respects and appreciates each other the relationship can still be strong and meaningful”
It was her birthday and a highly hormonal Simi — pregnant with her fifth her oldest pushing five — was crabby and depleted. Desperate she got a babysitter jumped on the Q train and phoned her husband at his 34th Street office. She got his voicemail.
“I need a break ” she said urgently. “I’m 30 minutes away from your building. I’ll meet you at Battery Park then we go out to eat?”
She was whizzing past DeKalb Avenue feeling a tiny seed of hope when she got the text: Sry. I’m tired. Going home.
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