It’s at times such as these that we all must assume leadership responsibilities

My father ztz”l could listen to the same song one hundred times. In a row. That’s no exaggeration. My family would often make the four-hour drive to New York to visit my grandfather. My father would listen to one song the entire time. “Play it again, Sam,” he’d quip, and my mother would rewind and the song would begin again. (You do the math, how many times would we hear one song on each trip?)
It was hard to get sick of any of his songs though, because my father enjoyed them as much on repeat #99 as he did the first time around. At home he’d close his eyes and sway softly to the music, humming the words with such appreciation that you could tell he was deep into the song, not just listening to it. There were certain tunes that no matter when I heard them, I’d stop and think, hey, they’re playing Abba’s song!
When my father was niftar suddenly, I couldn’t tolerate hearing any of his songs. As an avel, you’d think I’d be safe since I couldn’t hear music, but Eretz Yisrael is a land of harmony, and I was accosted by these tunes all over.
I remember that first Erev Shavuos in aveilus. I was rushing, preparing for Yom Tov when suddenly the loudspeakers in my neighborhood began blaring “Kad Yasvin Yisrael….”
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