The Open Mic piece on “Why Risk Shidduchim?” has drawn significant feedback. Here is a sampling
I found R.L.’s Open Mic piece to reflect the painful truth. As a 22-year-old woman, I see this pattern playing out among my friends and acquaintances.
While I was fortunate to marry at the very young age of 20, the majority of my friends remain single today. Many of them started out on an “acceptable” career path as 18- and 19-year-olds. As they grew fed up with a system denying them the opportunity to date, many changed their career aspirations.
One friend began her journey believing she would eventually work as a PA; she is currently applying to medical school. Another girl, an aspiring interior designer, is attending architecture school, while another friend, already a CPA, is pursuing a master’s in tax and plans on attending business school in the near future.
None of these girls want to sit around and wait to get married. “Waiting to get married” is not an occupation. At the same time, many girls who pursue advanced education and careers find shidduchim even more challenging. These girls are deemed “older” or “too accomplished.”
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