“How Can We Break the Bully’s Grip?”

There’s a girl in my daughter’s class who’s a real bully and has been for at least four years. She has the power to decide which girls are “in” and which girls are “out.” My daughter has always been part of the “in group,” although there are some

behaviors that happen within it that she doesn’t approve of, and she constantly debates where her place should be.

We live in a small community, and often the girls do something together in a group, so if she’s not part of the group, she wouldn’t have much of a social life. Recently, my daughter did something that this Class Queen didn’t like. Since then, she’s actively separating my daughter from everyone in the group. If my daughter hangs out with another girl in the group, this bully walks by and calls everyone over to see something or do something, deliberately excluding my daughter. Sometimes she’ll pass by and say out loud “X (the girl who’s speaking to my daughter) is like Mother Theresa. She talks to the pathetic girls.”

The bully’s parents have basically given up on her. They have no control over their daughter and very limited communication with her.