Q:

MY daughter, married with several children, lives in a city far from us. She’s told me that she’s been having a difficult time emotionally for several months, but didn’t offer any details. I only know that she went for intensive therapy, which seemed to help.

As I will soon be visiting my sister who lives in the same region as my daughter, I was naturally expecting to stay with my daughter as well, either on Shabbos or during the week. When I asked her which would be better, she responded that she and her husband “aren’t up to having guests.” I’m her mother, not a guest! I send gifts for her and her family. I don’t interfere with her child-rearing or her marriage. We’ve helped them out quite a bit financially, even paying for her therapy.

I may not have been a perfect mother, but I gave my daughter everything I could: love and attention, braces, camp, seminary. I was a stay-at-home parent and never even left her with babysitters. I’m very hurt that she doesn’t want me to stay with her.

Is there any way to communicate my feelings, or should I just keep it to myself? Is there a way to make her appreciate me, her mother?