I ’m 20 years old and I went out with my first boy three months ago. We went out four times and really connected. At first I was concerned that he was frummer than me but then I came to appreciate that by knowing him I’d only grow in Yiddishkeit.
Although we knew he wasn’t the biggest illuy in yeshivah I got the feeling that he took his learning seriously and did the best he could. After the fourth date my father found out that he is weak in learning has a hard time grasping Gemara and probably won’t learn more than two years.
My father works and I’d like my husband to eventually do the same. I’m machshiv learning but I know that once we need parnassah I want my husband to work — while keeping learning his top priority.
My parents felt that since this boy is weak in learning I won’t be able to respect him. And since learning is so hard for him he probably doesn’t get any real enjoyment from it. My father s decided to put the shidduch on hold.
