“Some of my other single friends are doing things so differently. They’re having the most amazing years of their life”
Dear Single Friend,
I understand that you’re struggling with our relationship now that I’m married and you’re still single. Of course, you’d love it if we were at the same stage of life. But life doesn’t give you choices, and we’re both trying to do our best. I can only try to imagine how hard it must be for you.
I don’t want to hurt you; I say all this only to help you. I’m sure it’s painful to speak to me. But in the long run, it’ll hurt you more than it’ll hurt me.
I’ve seen how my friends who genuinely work on themselves to be happy for their friends who’ve “moved on” are the ones who stick. The ones who find it too painful to speak to their married friends are the ones who get lost, even after they get married.
You write, “Friendships go through ups and downs. The ones that weather the storms are the strongest.” But if you avoid speaking to me because of your pain, we aren’t weathering any storms together. And our friendship will be lost, or at least very superficial. If you speak to me about your pain, we’ll come out stronger.
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