We know that you’re both in terrible pain. But we need to say something to both of you
WEwrite this letter with trepidation and dismay.
It hasn’t been fun watching your marriage crumble. It has been agonizing to witness what happens when two people fall to bitter fighting, when they can’t compromise on their principles for the sake of their children and their marriage.
We know that you’re both in terrible pain. But we need to say something to both of you.
As outsiders, we see how this could go differently. From the outside, we see that you could end this marriage in a peaceful, nonconfrontational way. You could fire your lawyers and accept a divorce agreement from a beis din or with the help of the askanim who work as mediators. Make an agreement (even one you don’t like) and exit. End the conflict.
We see that the path you’re taking will never end. You will fight each other to bankruptcy and beyond. You’ll destroy your children. And you still won’t get what you want. There’s a simpler approach: Just stop. Stop accusing each other of every possible wrong. Stop involving police and courts and Child Protective Services. Stop, even if you are right. It’s getting you nowhere.
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