Using Mel Robbins’s “Let Them” theory can be life-changing
Author and self-help guru Mel Robbins has a new book out: The Let Them Theory. It goes beyond the “Let Them” concept to the life-changing “Let Me” concept.
Robbins starts off explaining that a lot of self-induced misery occurs because we want other people to change. The refusal to accept others just as they are, doing whatever it is that they do, is a sure path to anger, helplessness, and unhappiness.
Of course, allowing people to treat us poorly is also a path to anger, helplessness, and unhappiness. But in many life situations, we’re not “allowing” anything; it’s just happening. For instance, if we go to the parking lot to retrieve our car and discover that some selfish person blocked our exit with their own car, we didn’t “allow” this to happen — it just happened (according to Robbins’s secular worldview). Ranting and raving about it gives power to the offender; we’ve allowed that person to raise our blood pressure, propel toxins throughout our bloodstream, and otherwise ruin our day.
Robbins comes to the rescue with her Let Them Theory. You can’t stop other people from being insensitive, thoughtless, selfish, or anything else, she notes. Since we have no control over how other people think, feel, or act, we can recognize this and “let them” be themselves.
Create a free account to keep reading.
