New Heights

As told to Lori Holzman Schwartz

Ichecked off the first of my life goals without much trouble. I got accepted into an Ivy League college, spent four years studying intensely, and then enrolled at an Ivy League law school, specializing in tax law.

While I was knee-deep in schoolwork, my friends started shidduchim. But I wasn’t worried. As soon as I had my degree, I’d start dating and then things would happen quickly. At least that’s what I thought.

After graduation, I was hired by a top law firm. My hours were intense — I worked until midnight or 2 a.m. every night. That might sound like a prison sentence to some people, but I loved it. I enjoyed the intellectual challenge of the work. My mind was stimulated and I felt productive.

And I could still date in the evenings. I’d leave straight from the office, meet my date somewhere, and then return to my desk afterward. I met a lot of nice guys, but nothing clicked.