So Much to Say

We have a lot to say and we want to say it. Especially when it comes to explaining why we’re upset, we don’t like to spare words. It’s important to us that the offender understands his or her offence. To this end we will name it, explain it, give examples of it, give previous examples of it, describe its impact, describe its past impact, describe its future impact, and more.

A woman is hurt by something her husband said, and lets him know it. “When you speak to me in that tone of voice, I feel completely disrespected, like nothing I say or think matters and then I feel, what’s the point? Why even try to communicate because anyway, you’re just going to dismiss everything I say as being completely uninformed and ignorant. And so I’ve learned to just keep my mouth shut except for today, when for some reason, I decided to take a risk and try — just try — to make just a small suggestion. But, silly me, I should never have done it because look what happened. The same as always — like the day of our wedding when I suggested that maybe it wasn’t such a good idea to let the kids play in the hall. And even then — I should have seen it coming, what the rest of my life with you would look like — evem then, when we were just married, you let me know how ridiculous my idea was. What do you think I felt at that time? Yes! Exactly like I feel right now!”

So Hard to Hear

Despite the fact that we want to say it, the truth is, that no one wants to hear it!

“When my mother starts with one of her famous lectures, I just close my ears and wait for the noise to stop. She just goes on and on and on, even though she made her point in her first three words.”