Do you have any of these “difficult” tendencies?
We’re all familiar with the concept of “the difficult child.” But these people grow up and get married one day. What do they look like then? Well, they might look like your spouse. They might also look like you.
None of us thinks of ourselves as “difficult.” We’re more likely to notice that people around us don’t cooperate, don’t understand us, don’t meet our needs. It rarely occurs to us that maybe we’re the ones who aren’t cooperating, understanding, or otherwise responding appropriately. Even if we’re routinely losing relationships or experiencing interpersonal conflict, we’re likely to chock it all up to bad luck or our bad taste in people. We may fail to notice that the common denominator in the difficult relationship is us.
Most of us are good at heart, and we like to think we’re having a positive impact on the world in general and on our loved ones in particular. We may be surprised one day — the day of our great accounting — to learn that we caused so much pain to those near and dear to us.
Says one wife, “My husband is very difficult and makes my life miserable. He’s stubborn, demanding, and always complaining. Most nights I cry myself to sleep.”
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