Difficult discussions are inevitable. To have them be successful start right.
Chaya has had it! “You won’t believe what I come home to” she fumes. “There are dishes in the sink on the counter on the table. There are books and clothes and toys everywhere. My husband comes in at six and instead of helping me he plays with the kids or takes care of other things. Sometimes he says he has to rest for awhile before dinner. Meanwhile I’ve worked at a job in the morning shopped come home cooked kept the kids occupied cleaned started the older children on their homework — and my evening hasn’t even begun!”
Chaya is sure that her husband should be helping more when he comes home so she decides to “speak to him.”
We Have to Talk
Many people tremble at the words “we have to talk.” They know from past experience that the phrase is a euphemism for “I have to talk … and talk and talk until I get my point across and you will have to listen and agree or you and I will be having a big fight tonight.” Or they might know that “talks” always end up as fights. Indeed what is meant to be a constructive meeting often descends into stressful conflict and misunderstanding. What goes wrong? Very often it is the opening remarks.
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