Is this teaching healthy communication? What about when they get into an inevitable disagreement?
I know how invested you are in getting my son married. I know you spend hours upon hours of thought, effort, and phone calls, with hopes that this girl will be The One.
I also know how much my son trusts you. He’s unfortunately been burned by other shadchanim. Because of their “constructive criticism,” experiences have hardened him, made him cynical and suspicious. He’s too often felt that their push is for selfish reasons only, another business scheme with him as the collateral damage.
So the fact that he not only believes you’re authentic and genuine, but also truly care about him, is an amazing testimony to who you are. And it’s not only gentle support; you also manage to offer truly constructive feedback, tips, and pointers. Your guidance and advice have been invaluable.
I’ve done my best to stay out of the picture. I trust that you’re the expert, and Heaven forfend that I be the meddling mother! If he’s ready to get married, he’s an adult; I’ll treat him that way. And there have been many things you’ve told him, in your warm yet straightforward approach, that he’s been mekabel, things he’d never accept from me as his mother.
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