Almost every frum Jew today has someone in their life who is at risk of being cremated
Your Touch Base articles about tzniyus were enlightening and interesting, but I feel that unfortunately they are not likely to be accepted by women who could benefit, and here’s why. We all know when our tzniyus could use improvement, that sheitels have become ridiculous, that women working in mixed offices can be too well-dressed and friendly, or that dress styles can be within halachah but not appropriate.
But no woman thinks it’s her, because rarely does she feel confident about herself. Women always think they could or should look better, thinner, or younger and don’t really feel good about themselves. So she wears something a little more bold, or gets a longer sheitel, and still feels not even close to what she wishes she looked like, so she couldn’t possibly be why there’s a tzniyus problem. Almost no woman thinks that she’s the tzniyus problem, because that comes with a realization that not only does she look good, she looks too good.
So bottom line, it’s self-esteem, and that’s the real problem. Maybe as mothers we could work on our relationships with our kids and make them know that they matter and are loved and that we think that they are beautiful. That’s an important goal in and of itself — and maybe it can help change come in the back door.
B. Rothblatt
I enjoy the Close to Home diary serial but wanted to clarify that cremated remains do not confer tumah upon a Kohein at all. The cremation process is so utterly destructive that nothing is left that can be metamei. In fact, nothing traces these ashes back to a human being — certainly not to a specific human being. Even DNA that is just 2 nanometers in diameter — 2 billionths of a meter — is obliterated.
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