Our actions, especially in marriage, have long-term consequences
Shlomo didn’t get it. He was trying everything to get Shevy’s attention, but she seemed completely uninterested.
“I picked up her favorite chocolates last week. She barely said ‘thank you.’ Two weeks ago I suggested we go for a walk after dinner — something she’s been asking for practically since we got married 25 years ago. I thought she’d be thrilled. She didn’t even want to go! And tonight I asked her if she wants to play Boggle, and she told me she’s too busy, maybe another time!
“I don’t understand. This is the stuff she’s told every marriage counselor we’ve been to that she wants in her marriage and when I do it, she acts like she doesn’t even care.”
Shlomo isn’t imagining things. It’s true that Shevy doesn’t care. “I would’ve loved all that stuff a long time ago. I begged him to make me feel special, to show some interest in me. But instead of doing what I asked him to do, he’d say things like, ‘I bring home money, don’t I?’ or ‘I keep my learning seder and daven with a minyan. That’s what a husband is supposed to do. We’re not in shanah rishonah; you shouldn’t be asking me to waste time on nonsense.’
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