It’s a bit ironic that this question was asked by a woman because I find that more often, women inadvertently become controlling in the marriage
Written with Zivia Reischer
I’m very confused about the whole “isha kesheirah” concept. Does that mean that my husband is the boss and he can tell me what to do?
For example, he feels strongly that some of the contemporary Jewish music has a negative influence on a person. He can make the choice not to listen to such music, but does he get to demand that I don’t, either? I enjoy a lot of music that he thinks is unacceptable. I listen to it on my MP3 when I’m working out or doing housework rather than playing it aloud for the whole house to hear. We’re both okay with this arrangement.
Would it be better for me to stop listening to it altogether? Is a compromise okay? What if the situation were flipped, and he wanted to listen to this music and I wasn’t comfortable with it — would he have to bow his will to mine?
First, let me reiterate that it’s crucial that every family have a rav who can guide them according to daas Torah. A rav who knows you and the intricacies of your situation can guide you according to the laws and spirit of the Torah as they apply specifically to your circumstances. The discussion within these pages is only in general terms and can never cover the topic completely.
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