how do we connect when date night doesn’t feel like an option?
Abby Delouya RMFT-CCC, CPTT
With everything going on in our lives, it’s hard to find time to connect with our spouse. One practical way to do so is with a weekly date night. Rabbi Shafier wrote about the importance of date night at length in his “Made in Heaven” column.
Often, however, I get raised eyebrows or rolled eyes the minute I get the words out. “How can we do date night? It’s impossible to find sitters, and when we can, it’s always for a simchah, or a school event — something non-negotiable” or “Between the sitter, and the restaurant, it’s just unaffordable. We need that money for more crucial things.”
I get all that, I really do. We have myriad responsibilities, and are pulled in a dozen directions. Yet if the foundation of our marriage feels shaky, and we don’t have the emotional connection we need, everything will be more difficult. Additionally, one day the roller coaster of life may slow down, and you’re going to want to recognize your seatmate.
So, how do we connect when date night doesn’t feel like an option? How else can we keep our marriage vibrant?
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