My Unkind Child

 

Children are born, as we know, with a generous dose of personality. Parents help shape and guide their offspring, but they cannot completely change their inborn character. As a result, many parents are “stuck” with a child (or more) who they aren’t naturally fond of.

“My daughter is very demanding. She always wants something from me. Sometimes it’s a particular food, sometimes it’s a toy, sometimes it’s clothing or accessories, sometimes it’s just my attention. It’s gotten to the point that when I know she’s in a room, I avoid entering that room because I don’t want to be ‘attacked’ by her wants. I honestly don’t enjoy being around her but, as her mother, I feel very guilty saying that.”

Personality Clashes

Of course no mother wants to dislike her own child, but when a child isn’t likable, it can and does happen.

“I honestly can’t stand watching my daughter interact with other children. She’s such a snob! When her friends come knocking on our door to invite her out, not only does she refuse to go, she practically slams the door in their faces! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve taught her how to decline politely and sensitively, but when her friends ask her if she wants to play, she still says things like, ‘No, I don’t want to!’ and walks off. When other people see her behave rudely to children — including to their own kids — I almost feel like I have to apologize for her. One thing I ‘enjoyed’ about quarantine was that we didn’t get together with anyone. It was a temporary relief for me.”