PERSPECTIVES → PERSPECTIVE Issue 1032 · October 9, 2024

Removing the Roadblocks to Teshuvah     

Removing the Roadblocks to Teshuvah     
What exactly do we need to do to achieve “successful” teshuvah?

The problem is, the obstacle-clearing process comes with its own roadblocks. What exactly do we need to do to achieve “successful” teshuvah? What if the thought of all that self-introspection and inner work overwhelms or discourages us?

This week, we’ll deal with three more questions that often come up for all of us who feel confused, ill-equipped, anxious or even “turned off” as we face the work of the Aseres Yemei Teshuvah. This will help us move toward a genuine, fruitful experience of teshuvah and connection.

1. I don’t really want to think about teshuvah — it makes me feel so awful about myself and how far I am from where I need to be. How can I combat this?

The teshuvah process often brings up a lot of “stuff.” When we think about taking an honest look at where we’re holding, negative emotions often emerge to block our way. We might get depressed — I can’t do this, I’m no good. Why am I such a failure? Or feel angry, defiant: Why is this so hard? What do You want from me?

Several thousand years ago, a fellow named Kayin brought a subpar korban. Hashem rejected it, triggering in Kayin that instinctual human response of anger and depression (Bereishis 4:5).

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