“You!” he said, pointing to Basya, who seemed to be organizing everything. “You go find out about the kesubah”
Shani Leiman with Zivia Reischer
I know there are a lot of strong feelings surrounding the “age order” concept, where people expect children in a family to get married in an oldest-first pattern. I know this because I had a younger sister.
When she was 19 and I was 21, she was redt to her first boy. People thought she should wait, but my sister wanted to meet him, and I told my parents I didn’t want to hold her back. She met him and married him, and I got married a full two years later.
Good thing we didn’t make her wait, right? Shidduchim are complicated enough without holding back younger siblings. Leave it up to Hashem to work out the who, when, where, and how.
The Feldheims faced a similar situation. Although Miriam Feldheim was 23, her chassan, Yanky Green, also 23, was only the second boy she’d dated. That’s because when Miriam had returned from seminary, she had “waited” for her older sister, Basya.
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