Speechless

Yehuda balked at his wife’s advice to see a therapist. “What good will that do?” he asked her. “Heshy stole the money, we’re broke, end of story. Do you think a therapist is going to change that?”

Shevy, a therapist herself, answered: “You need to process what happened. Heshy was your best friend. You have a slew of feelings sitting inside. People can get sick from unprocessed feelings, and I don’t want that to happen to you!”

Yehuda didn’t feel a desire or a need to explore his feelings with a professional after being betrayed by his childhood best friend and current business partner. He knew that he was hurt. He wasn’t waiting for someone to validate that feeling or give him permission to feel it. He knew it would take time to pass. He also knew how he would handle the situation. He planned to walk away from his lifelong pal and move on. He wasn’t lost or confused or paralyzed.

But Yehuda’s wife was concerned. What if Yehuda was burying his feelings? What might deep resentment, helplessness, and rage do to Yehuda’s inner organs? Shevy wasn’t comfortable with her husband’s decision to push through the crisis on his own.