When we’re victims of unfairness, we can choose to respond with dignity
“My husband never remembers our date night. If he doesn’t care, why should I?”
Because now you’re both not working on the marriage. That’s not going to bring you much happiness!
And yet, this sort of behavior is common. We like things to be fair, and when they aren’t, we’re willing to “cut off our nose to spite our face.” We forget that it’s our own face we’re deforming. If our spouse isn’t trying to improve his marriage, we can still try to improve ours! True, he doesn’t deserve our effort. But the effort isn’t for him. It’s for us. We’re the ones who benefit when we take the high road.
Mother: Chaim! Stop hitting your brother!
Chaim: He called me an idiot!
Mother: That’s upsetting, but you know the rule: no hitting!
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