When someone who looks just like you is also “in the parshah,” how does it feel? What happens to your relationship when she ties the knot? The unique struggles — and giggles — twins face in dating and marriage.
For most frum identical twins the first bump on the journey to matrimony is deciding who’s going to date first — and if Twin #2 will wait in the wings.
“My husband Yisroel is three minutes younger than his twin Doni” shares Yael Malek a Detroit-based mother of four. “He told Doni ‘I’ll wait for you… three minutes!’ ”
Many families still take the traditional route giving the elder twin the green light.
“I was always viewed as the oldest” says Reena a take-chargeTorontoteacher born three minutes before her twin. “When we came back from seminary my European parents were adamant about ‘going in order ’ but I was very uncomfortable. The pressure is awful — it’s like having someone breathing down your back. Did I really want to be the reason my twin was not getting married?”
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