Q

Since my husband began seeing success in business some 20 years ago, we have been living an admittedly lavish lifestyle. Winters are in Florida and summers are in Switzerland, and there’s plenty of Disneyland in between. I’ve grown comfortable with my new reality over the years, and what may have once been cause for a stab of guilt is now just an expected norm.

But recently, the guilt has come creeping back. My oldest son is now an 11th-grade yeshivah bochur and is, baruch Hashem, learning extremely well and growing rapidly in his yiras Shamayim. We are very proud of him, but I can’t help but think that we are not accommodating him properly. We insist that he join us on our trips to Los Angeles (only when he has an off Shabbos, of course).

I noticed that, when we were shopping at a high-end mall, his glasses were off and he was looking down at his shoes. I also noticed that, on Pesach, when we went to a very extravagant hotel program that offered endless entertainment and socializing, he became very withdrawn and basically secluded himself in his room.

Should we be making serious changes in our lifestyle to accommodate our son’s spiritual growth?