When it comes to building a relationship with your child you’re on your own. The strength of the parent-child bond is determined by the receptivity of the child and on the behaviors of the parent.
Children are born with different levels of receptivity: some live in their own world not interested in connecting to other human beings; some are super-connectors longing for attachment with everyone; and most are somewhere in between these two extremes. Let’s look at the “average” connector for the purposes of today’s discussion.
Your Child Needs You
Normal children are born with an intense need for connection to their primary caretakers. They need to feel loved by both their mother and father and they want to feel loved by others in their close family circle.
They want to feel liked by virtually everyone they meet as the desire to feel welcomed and accepted is a default setting in human beings an important craving that facilitates human survival. We live in social groups and depend on each other for the basic necessities of life. Being socially excluded is therefore a threat to our very existence; we try to avoid it at all costs.
