Cross these questions off your list— because I’m not going to answer them
Looking into a shidduch is exhausting, and I want to make your life a little simpler. Before you call me to ask about a friend, you can feel free to cross these questions off your list —because I’m not going to answer them.
“What hasn’t worked with the others?” you want to know? None of that is relevant to your son. I can tell you the previous bochurim were too loud, but maybe when the perfect even-louder person comes along, he won’t be too loud at all. I can say that they weren’t adventurous enough, but when she meets the right one, she’ll like him, no matter how boring he is.
All of that aside though — whether the question will give you relevant information or not — it’s simply none of your business. I get that people in shidduchim are items in the shop window, available for whoever wants to come by and stare, but that’s enough. They don’t need to sacrifice any more of their dignity. You don’t get to ask about past shidduchim — it’s not yours to know.
I know it’s hard to believe, when everything about the person is on display, but some things are still private.
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