It’s easy to have a good relationship with the grandkids. To have that with their parents, you need to overcome two fatal flaws
Often grandmothers are more laid back than mothers and provide a dose of unconditional love that’s hard to come by elsewhere in life. Many grandmothers will attest to their almost fanatic love of their grandchildren.
Of course, grandmothers are people, and people are all different. There are plenty of non-maternally inclined grandparents out there too, and even some who are anything but unconditionally loving. Grandmothers can be uninterested, aloof, critical, easily irritated, or any other shade of unpleasant, but fortunately for grandchildren, this isn’t the most common scenario. Even women who were critical, demanding, and rejecting of their own children often find within themselves a heart full of love for their grandchildren.
Although all of the above applies equally to grandfathers, there are differences between the genders when it comes to family dynamics. Adults can have all sorts of issues with their mothers and their fathers, but for some reason, issues with mom tend to be more common.
Dad is often seen as a nice guy who has resigned himself to life with a difficult person and who does the best he can to cope. Unless, of course, Dad is a tyrant with a martyred woman for a wife.
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