I can't tell her she hurt me but I want to forgive
I was wondering if you’d be able to give me a formula or practical ideas on how to forgive someone who badly hurt me.
It’s not somebody who I could approach to tell them that; it’s inner work I have to do, and I’m having a hard time with it.
Thank you.
To answer this question, let’s imagine that the following scenario occurred: Earlier this year both you and your sister-in-law Leah were looking for a new job. After a long search, you had a promising interview and, lo and behold, after you mentioned it to her, Leah sent the company her resume. She quickly got an interview, an offer — and then she took the job. Afterward she acted all innocent, claiming she didn’t realize you were seriously considering it, she didn’t think you’d be interested in that sort of position, the employer was pressuring her to sign, blah blah blah…
You didn’t want to start a family feud. This is your husband’s sister. And your husband reminded you of what you know to be true: “We have to let it go. The job wasn’t bashert for you. We’ll find the right one at the right time.”
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