The Conversation, as Mishpacha likes to say, “Continues.” When it comes to shidduchim, it continues, and continues
My friend is the youngest of five, all single. She claimed she would become engaged to the first guy she meets. I thought she was joking, AND THEN SHE DID!! I’m nervous for her. What if she’s marrying the wrong person?
A bochur was determined to get engaged before his second younger sister’s wedding, and he succeeded. His wife’s awesome, but does anyone think she’s significantly different from all 58 prospects who preceded her?
I’m not sure how to put this delicately, so I’ll say it and duck: Forget about the Right One. Forget bashert. It’s as practically relevant as, lehavdil, Cupid’s arrow.
There are endless variables affecting when and why people connect. As a social experiment, a secular dating app told users they were being set up according to algorithms and personal data, and while some were, others were matched randomly. It set off a scandal, but the experiment worked: When people were led to believe they were a good match, they acted accordingly. We’ve all heard stories about Shloime or Bob being all wrong and becoming much less wrong when a dozen roses are thrown in to sweeten the deal.
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