What do we do when we “kind of” know what we need to do but we feel torn?
Esther Goldstein
Making decisions can be tough. Sometimes, wracked with indecision, we reach out to those we respect, thirsty for direction. Often we simply need a shift in perspective, other times we realize we must gather more data. And sometimes we already have an answer — we just need a boost of confidence to stand by what we feel is right.
But what do we do when we “kind of” know what we need to do but we feel torn about how to follow what our wise minds and hearts are telling us? Here are some steps that will help you make a balanced decision and follow through with it:
Sometimes we’re drawn to an impulsive decision because we can’t sit with the discomfort of indecision. We feel compelled to jump in and make a change. Listen to yourself. If there’s clarity — then stay with it. Write it down. Own it. Be grateful for it. You need that clarity — but you may not need to jump into action. Let the clarity simmer. And only then begin to take small and mindful action steps. Taking things slowly will foster a sense of peace as you implement your decisions feeling grounded and confident.
When we make a decision, there are always feelings that come along with it. You decide to leave a job because it’s a toxic work environment — that’ll come with a sense of relief, but also you’ll likely feel sadness, grieving the parts of the job you liked… or the people you worked with… or the disappointment of letting go of hopes you had for the opportunities there. There will be an empty space. Acknowledge it. Part of the decision process is saying “no” to something. Be okay with that. Remember that saying no is a way to say yes to something else.
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